I have to get this off my chest.
I had a boss who was very demanding, too demanding in fact.
One time he praised me for all the work I did on a project which resulted in a couple hundred dollars more for our small firm.
He invited me to dinner and I accepted because I felt as though I deserved it.
We had a pleasant chat and I enjoyed myself and we went home.
The next day however, my boss started pursuing me like something else. I couldn’t believe it was the same man who was nice but demanding.
He told me if I wanted to keep my job I had to have sex with him. I told him off and continued to do my work diligently.
He started calling me at home at all hours of the night and it got so bad he came to pick me up from home for work and demanded I get in the car.
I also refused to have sex with him even though I was tempted. He is really attractive.
Because I wouldn’t, he started spreading rumours about me and about us which my co-workers believed.
I quit my job and moved to another country to escape this mad man. I didn’t want to but for my peace of mind I packed up and left my family, friends and familiar places to live in a foreign place where no one knows my name.
This is not right and it simply not fair.
Since yuh Ask, BA, let me say you are absolutely right. It is not fair! Any employer who operates in such a manner ought to be prosecuted. Unfortunately, it would come down to your word against his, and you have not suggested you ever recorded him, or invited anyone to listen to his “offers” so I believe you have no tangible proof.
Sometimes, it is also possible to get such persons by suing them for wrongful dismissal and hoping that they contest it so that all the dirty linen could come out in court, but you left before he had the chance to fire you.
At this stage, therefore, I would simply say to you to move on with your life and forget about him. There is a lot of truth to the saying “What goes around, come around”. He will get what he deserves at some time, so leave him to his own devices.
While you may see your settlement in another country as something bad that happened to you, I invite you to see the silver lining behind this dark cloud in that you have an opportunity to start over again without anything hanging over you head. Make the most of it. I wish you every success.