You didn’t seek anyone’s permission to come into this world. So, why on earth would you seek permission from anyone else to just be yourself?
Too often, we seek the opinions, permission, judgments and stereotypes of others. This custom is a disastrous portion perfectly concocted to feed nothing but depression, low self esteem, lack of self love and living your life according to someone else’s views.
Let me say this, a little differently this time, just live your life authentically – in other words, you are the only one who can be the best you that you can be. We each have a special gift to offer this world – termed as our divine destiny. We may get distracted, side tract or even knocked completed off the path. But always remember, you never need to ask directions. No one knows you better than you know yourself – and if you doubt this, you’re pretty much doomed!
You may ask, “what is living authentically?” Well, “living authentically is what you’re doing when you find congruence between your inner world: your feelings, values, gifts, needs, spirituality, and passions, and your outer world: your job, relationships, home, and community. When you live an authentic life, these things support and synergize each other” says Susan Piver, NY Times bestselling author of seven books and founder of the Open Heart Project, an international online meditation community of nearly 10k members.
Here are some simple tips for living authentically:
Spend time with yourself. Spending quality time with yourself can be more beneficial than you may realise. According to psychologytoday.com: Solitude allows you to reboot your†brain†and unwind. Solitude helps to improve†concentration†and increase productivity.† Solitude gives you an opportunity to discover yourself and find your own voice.† Solitude provides time for you to think deeply.†Solitude helps you work through problems more effectively.†Solitude can†enhance the quality of your relationships with others.
What others think of you is none of your business
I know, I know… you’ve heard this many times, but still it’s the one that’s most challenging. However, it would only appear that way because we have created the habit of looking outward for acceptance and guidance. If you take a minute and really think about it, it really is not your business what people think of you! It may sound selfish, but we tend to neglect ourselves too often.
Please yourself first “I don’t know the key to success, but the key to failure is trying to please everybody.” ~ Bill Cosby. Please recognise that you cannot at anytime in your entire life, please everyone. It’s an impossible task. One that you will never achieve, and will die trying. Remember that even with the great spiritual leaders throughout world history, they too weren’t able to please everyone – and by golly, they didn’t even try! So feel free to make yourself happy and indulge in life’s pleasures. Once you know that you’re doing your best, well then, you best is good enough for you.
Write out your strengths and positive traits. That’s right! Get a piece of paper, your smart phone or tablet and take the time to itemise your inner traits which you find pleasing. Please be warned! This is not the time to regurgitate what others have said about you; but for you to go within and celebrate that which pleases you about yourself. Keep this list close to hand and/or always in your sight. It serves as a great reminder anytime you need some reassure – and this kind of self reassurance couldn’t come from a better person.
Trust your instincts The time has come to reconnect to yourSELF. Tune into that inner voice that you frequently disregard. Trust yourself to know that what you desire to do is right for you. Doing what’s right for you, without causing harm to another, is always the best route to take. The more you trust your instincts – that gut feeling – the more comfortable you’ll feel moving forward and making decisions.
Don’t be afraid to make mistakes If you make a mistake, based on your own judgment and decision; it makes it easier for you to live with yourself because it’s easier to blame someone else. Unfortunately, we have become a society that’s so eager to blame another for fear of accepting responsibility for our own actions.
Whether you decide to adhere to the ‘advice’ of another, ultimately, the decision is still yours to accept or reject it. The point is, you take action fully owning your decision, making your own choice. This way you are more readily able to analyse the situation, without the added burden of placing blame, and you’ll learn a valuable lesson.
Get to know yourself You hear many people saying that they are still trying to figure out who they really are. I say to those people, kudos! At least they’re on the path to self realisation and doing some soul searching. In doing this, however, be careful not to be pulled here and there, wasting your precious energy running blindly behind every ‘self’ you see in others. It’s a wonderful habit to also learn to embrace your different personalities. Understand that it’s okay to feel sad, angry, happy, pleasure etc. without having to answer to anyone for your feelings. Especially when you move through your multifaceted self with grace.
Within is the only way out
Whether you want to accept it or not, the answers are all within you. You were created through a miraculous series of events which still baffle the greatest scientists of our times. You were born genetically wired with all you need to you. Just think about it for a while. Even when someone shares their opinion with you, there’s a period where you analyse the information to determine whether you’ll accept it or not.That’s the going within stage. Regrettably though, too many skip this entire process and become like sponges.
Living authentically is living your life according to your plan, unapologetically. I have found that, over the past few years, the more I live my authentic self, the more I am able to set my goals and work steadfastly towards achieving them all. For me, it has been the key to alleviating much of the unnecessary stress in my life, and helps me to remain focussed and dedicated to my calling.
Living authentically sets me free and fuels my creativity with clarity and insightfulness – and is the way I will continue to live my life, without apology, until I take my last breath.
To find out more techniques on how to live authentically, visit the website at www.wavesofblissbarbados.com Feel free to send your comments to [email protected] I would love to hear from you!†