As far as I am concerned, for as long as there have been people on this earth there has been cheating. So what would make some people believe that after all these years the tricks they come up with are new? Some people never cease to amaze!
Look, this is very simple. I am no teenager so I can’t pretend I have not tried a thing or two in my time; and I don’t judge anybody who makes a mistake, because I have made many.
I never had any plans of going to Reggae On The Hill, but there was a problem and my seniors asked me to take a team up there in response and I had no choice. My partner at work, a true friend, should also have been in the team, but he begged to be excused. He said he just did not have the heart for the noise and crowd and opted for other duty and I said okay, since it was my call.
Earlier in the day though, we were talking about how much he used to be a Reggae On The Hill man, but sort of lost the spirit. This year though, he was planning to go, just to take his girlfriend and she insisted she was not going. She was not in the mood this year. He was talking about taking her out to a special dinner that night because she would have been home alone all day.
Lo and behold I am at Farley Hill sheltering when my partner’s woman walks right pass me in this short, tight dress with a man hand all over her backside. She was so caught up with him she did not see me. Whenever I saw her that afternoon I saw him and it was clear to me they were not casual friends.
I made sure she did not see me, but when I had completed my task and the team was leaving I saw her hustling on the road, no doubt heading home to be there before her boyfriend got home so she could pretend she never left the house.
You don’t know how many thoughts ran through my mind. But I have no intention of saying anything to her, unless something brings it up; and I will not tell my partner anything because I believe when it comes to relationship, people should find out these things on their own.
She is not my woman, but I believed in her because my buddy believed in her. He trusted her, and as his friend I had no reason to believe otherwise. He thinks she is his world and I know if he finds out it will break his heart.
Although I know I will not say anything to him, I am still pondering if I should drop a few hints to her so she would understand I know and perhaps she would not do something else that would hurt the man who loves her.
What do you think?
Since Yuh Asked, TF, I think your initial thought is the right one. Stay out of it! If or when he finds out it will probably be after his suspicions have been raised and he has had time to think through possible reactions. When you spring a surprise on him while she is his every word, thought and action, you may provoke a response for which he is not mentally prepared.
While many will disagree with me, I also believe that a person must know the limits of friendship. Yours is not to determine the course of your friend’s relationship, but to be there to support it when it takes whatever course without any prompting from you or anyone else.
If by chance the circumstances are right and you and the girlfriend happen to be in a position to discuss what you saw, then I say that’s fine, but I don’t think you should set out to confront her. It may be that one mistake she made and then determined she really does not want to hurt her man, and so she stays on the straight and narrow. So he may never know, they are both happy, and they spend the rest of their lives together.
If he is to find out, he will. If she is chronically dishonest it is only a matter of time before she is caught anyhow.