Choosing empowerment and positivity, or negativity and unhappiness, is a decision that you’re making every day, whether you realise it or not.
It’s very true. The thoughts that we nurture and return to, time after time, are the ones which come to dominate our mind.
The exciting thing is, we have a choice. Although the negative and positive thoughts exist, we can choose which one of them we want to feed.
You probably know people who feel sorry for themselves, who belittle others, who seem to get some kind of pleasure out of feeling miserable, who portray themselves as victims and reject the affections of anyone who doesn’t offer constant sympathy. Often it seems to everybody but themselves that they actually have a whole lot going for them, but they’re apt to be defensive if anyone should ever dare to point that out!
That’s a classic example of what happens when you feed the negative thought. You don’t satisfy an appetite for any kind of feeling when you feed it you only make it stronger. If you indulge negative feelings about yourself or other people, you strengthen them until they’re very hard indeed to break away from.
The other side of the coin’s what happens when you feed the positive thought.
So, how do you feed the good thought, then? You give it what it most enjoys.
It has the most enormous appetite for feeling good, for having a positive self-image and strong self-esteem.
When was the last time you wanted to laugh aloud, or sing, or dance, or turn a somersault, just from the sheer delight of being alive?
If your good thought’s been going hungry, here’s how you can provide it with an instant banquet.
Sit back and relax, and free your mind. Just let your positive thoughts all come alive, and feel yourself becoming warm and comfortable. Let your mouth relax into a smile.
Now, think of something that makes you feel exhilarated. It doesn’t matter what it is, as long as it’s something that makes you light up as though somebody had pressed a switch.
This isn’t the moment for something comforting and soothing — this is about the sort of joy that makes you want to shout out from the rooftops that life’s wonderful.
If that’s not the way you feel right now, then think of of anything that’s ever made you feel delight and wonder. If you can’t immediately remember anything that’s made you feel that way, imagine what it would feel like to be totally spontaneous and carefree.
Now, focus on that feeling, and experience it as strongly as you can. Revel in it — relish every detail. Your subconscious mind can’t tell the difference between what’s really happening and what you only feel is happening, so concentrate on that great feeling till it becomes completely real for you.
Do this daily, and make yourself a promise that you’ll do it regularly. That way you’ll give yourself a surge of energy that will benefit yourself, your work and all you come in contact with.
Remember that you WILL get what you focus on, whether it’s positive or negative. What’s more, you won’t just get it, you’ll become it — an upbeat, enthusiastic, sparkling and happy person, or a miserable and self-destructive person.
* Dr. Adrian Daisley is a Certified Life Coach, Stress Manager and Fitness Chef