by Donna Sealy
If there is one thing David Codrington treasures is his relationship with his family.
The 49-year-old salesman with Cargo BGI, a shipping company, was born in England and spent his formative years there before coming to Barbados with his other relatives.
“I came here in ’76 and it was a rude awakening, a culture shock because the first time I ever saw grounded coffee and not instant coffee was when I came here and being a child it was different. I didn’t like it when I first came here but I grew into it,” he said in a interview with LOVING ME.
He and his family settled down in the quiet country district of Thorpe’s Cottage in St. George and although he never knew his father that had no impact on his upbringing or the way he turned out.
“I had a mother and she had seven of us, five here and two there (England). She had two here moved to England and had the five of us, [then] all of us came back. …I didn’t know the two of [siblings] until I moved here. I was the oldest in England and … I adapted to the situation.
“My mother was strict but we had flexibility. You couldn’t leave the house when she wasn’t there, I wouldn’t say she was too strict. It was kind of difficult, she didn’t have a fantastic job and they were five of us but we ate every day. I don’t know how she did it to be quite honest,” he said.
Did he miss his father?
“You can’t miss something you never had. My brothers and sisters bonded well even now, that’s one thing we’ve always been able to do. There’s a strong bond among every body, you could quarrel today and talk tomorrow. We’ve always lived good and I think that’s one of the things we got through our mother and I guess not having a father you had to have somebody else so you had the next person who as there,” said the former assistant manager with Dacosta Mannings.
Codrington, who moved to St. Peter when he got married, said that when he was growing up he did not think about having children, but he loves his daughter 17-year-old Davida and his son Nathan, 12.
He was there for them and wants to make sure “they have better than” he did.
“Parenting is a learning experience, an every day experience. Children throw out something you’ve never heard before but you deal with it on the spot, you don’t have much of a choice,” he said before breaking into a smile.
“We were very close. …I adapted quickly. I changed diapers, it is not fair for women to do everything. You have to share the load although I’m sure there will be other things she would possibly tell you that I might not do. In the early days for sure, I shared the work load, I was the person who got up in the middle of the night and held the baby when it was crying.
“Parenting is something you learn on your feet. My way of dealing with things might not work for you and vice versa and obviously it depends on the person too. You work with the situation as it comes to hand,” Codrington said.
The lesson he hopes his children will always carry with them is a simple one and should be easy to learn.
“It is always best to communicate, you have to talk. No matter how badly the situation may appear or how good the situation is, talk, Communication is key,” he said. [email protected]