Dear Since Yuh Ask,
I have a problem and I need you to help me cause I’m going out of my mind.
I broke up with my boyfriend about six months ago and started going with this guy who was way nicer, he made time for me and made me feel really special, something that my ex would never do because he thought was not the way women should be treated.
For him, women should either be barefoot and pregnant or waiting on them hand and foot.
The reason I am writing is this is that I went away on a business seminar recently where I met this really sweet woman. We hit it off right away and realised we had a lot in common and quickly became friends.
One night all of the participants headed out to take in a bit of night life and we got around to talking about men and women’s issues and cheating came up with people giving the reasons, it was a very good discussion. My new friend related her experience about this awesome guy whom she met recently and fell in love. She said he feels the same way and was even talking marriage.
When we came back home, we stayed in touch and chatted from time to time. Then one day I asked her to meet me for lunch and she said she couldn’t but I didn’t mind. Immediately after that call my phone rang and I was given an address and told I could see my man in action.
So said, so done. He was in an apartment with my friend having sex. I screamed, cursed both of them and left.
She has tried to speak to me but I won’t take her calls or his. I threw his ring at him and told him to stay away from me. Now I’m wondering if I did the right thing.
– Mrs. Jones
Dear Mrs. Jones, since yuh ask for my advice, I think you should leave the man to his own devices. If he did cheat and you can forgive him enough to move on and spend the rest of your life with him then do that.
Some people believe that once a cheat always a cheat but this is not always the case. Some people can and do change. If as you said you have a great relationship then you need to find out if he thinks so too. He might not and there might be issues and needs that he thinks you’ve neglected.
I don’t know what to tell you about her though because she seems innocent in all of this. Talk to both of them because she honestly did not know about you.
No matter how long or short a time you are with someone, breaking up is never easy, unless you never really cared.
Talk! Deal with it and fast!