Two local pastors are urging couples experiencing problems to seek professional help instead of taking matters into their own hands.
The advice comes on the heels of last weekend’s murder-suicide involving a married couple at Alleyne Land, Bayville, St Michael.
Pastor Selwyn Brathwaite of the Kingdom of Assembly Church told Barbados TODAY, while couples experience issues and disagreements it must not be allowed to fester.
Professional intervention, he said, allows for a third party to bring a different perspective to the table that could assist in finding solutions.
“Counseling is like giving a car a service to maintain it. In marriages, there are some things that need maintenance checks. If this doesn’t happen, it could be very damaging.
“Maintenance checks enable us to look at the little things that may need some attention and fix them as opposed to avoiding them. It can become very expensive to fix and you can say, ‘it is out of my hands, I am going to wreck this thing,’” he explained.
Senator Reverend David Durant of International Restoration Ministries expressed the view that couples handling problems themselves was not always be the best choice.
“Please seek counseling,” he advised, adding, “[It] can help cope with the challenges and be able to develop a better attitude or approach to resolving the problem [and] coming to [an] amicable settlement . . . rather than having [it] end in a very sad and tragic way.”
“My heart was so saddened by what I heard and with the passing of both mother and father, two lovely little children are left there,” Reverend Durant added.