NAME: Emerson Bryan
PROFESSION: Owner/ Principal Consultant & Information Management Specialist at Bryan Consultancies Inc
CHILDREN: Ariya, 9, and Marcus, 5
WHAT IS A TYPICAL DAY IN YOUR LIFE LIKE?
Before, when the children lived with me, it was a circus. Rushing to get them ready, breakfast, last minute bathroom calls, picking them up from school, doing homework with them, watching TV with them, and then tucking them in was a typical day – and I loved it all.
HOW DO YOUR CHILDREN FACTOR INTO HOW YOU DO YOUR JOB/GO ABOUT YOUR DAILY ACTIVITIES?
They now live with their mother, and sometimes I’m away, so we do Skype and Whatsapp.
My daughter makes sure I make contact almost daily.
HOW EASY/DIFFICULT IS IT TO JUGGLE FATHERHOOD WITH THE DEMANDS OF YOUR JOB AND OTHER RESPONSIBILITIES?
Oh, I always put my children first. ‘Family is forever, but a job is a job’ is my mantra. So I ensure as much as possible that my children are not left out, irrespective of whatever I may be doing. Previously, I worked in jobs requiring a lot of travel and office time, but fortunately now I am my own boss, so I am able to manage better now.
WHAT ARE THE BEST THINGS ABOUT BEING A FATHER?
The satisfaction of being able to mould and raise a child to become a part of society, the wet kisses, the “I love you, Daddy”, the look on their faces when I pick them up from school, or when they’ve done something for the very first time and they check to see if you were looking. Those are just a few of the best things about being a dad.
WHAT ARE YOUR MOST MEMORABLE MOMENTS IN FATHERHOOD?
I was in the room when both were coming into this world, and I can tell you that this really brought it home to me that women have to endure a lot more than us men. We are not built for such pain, and we should remember that despite celebrating fatherhood, we are all here through our mothers who had to endure the physical pain of carrying us to term, and therefore we ought to respect our women more as a society.
WHAT IS(ARE) THE MOST CHALLENGING THING(S) ABOUT BEING A FATHER?
Being away from them for extended periods is a killer, especially when they fall ill or experience some challenge or the other.
WHAT MAKES A GOOD FATHER?
Just show up as often as you can and be there for your children, irrespective of whatever else may be going on in life.