NAME: Kevin Pile
PROFESSION: Media & Communications Specialist
Children: Jari, 5
WHAT IS A TYPICAL DAY IN YOUR LIFE LIKE?
My day typically begins around six-ish and it seems almost from the time your eyes open, it’s a mad scramble until the day ends. My wife calls it the hamster wheel. The next hour-and-a-half is spent as a quasi-drill sergeant, yelling orders and issuing timelines, trying to get Jari prepped for school and out the door on time.
I work from home so after Jari leaves around 7:30 a.m., I settle down to my work for the rest of the day until school pickup around 3:30 p.m., which in itself represents another chaotic scramble through traffic in order to collect him on time and return home to wrap up my work. On average, I knock off around 7 p.m. most days.
HOW DOES YOUR SON FACTOR INTO HOW YOU DO YOUR JOB/GO ABOUT YOUR DAILY ACTIVITIES?
Having to do school pickups on evenings means my entire day schedule is predicated on that one activity. I therefore try to plan every day in such a way that I can have a blackout period in the evenings so I can collect Jari from school reasonably on time. Truthfully, that hardly ever happens!
HOW EASY/DIFFICULT IS IT TO JUGGLE FATHERHOOD WITH THE DEMANDS OF YOUR JOB AND OTHER RESPONSIBILITIES?
Honestly, I don’t think fatherhood could be successfully managed without my wife’s help. When I can’t fulfill a particular obligation, she usually steps in, thankfully. As I said before, with parenthood life does become a bit of a scramble so your entire schedule is centred around the activities of that child, so it can be quite challenging at times to balance work commitments and parental obligations. Thankfully, in my field, I can just about work from anywhere as long as an Internet connection and a mobile phone signal exist, so it enhances my flexibility. Outside of work, I try not to clutter my schedule with too many other activities so I can spend as much time with Jari as I can – often watching the same movie for the umpteenth time!
WHAT ARE THE BEST THINGS ABOUT BEING A FATHER?
Both my parents raised me with values that one day I always hoped I would be able to pass on to someone in that definitive role as father. So being able to navigate the choppy waters of parenthood and being able to impart those same values and watch a child slowly grow into ideally what you would want them to become, is perhaps the most rewarding thing about being a father.
WHAT ARE YOUR MOST MEMORABLE MOMENTS IN FATHERHOOD?
To be honest, I live for the validation of my son. So to hear him tell me that I’m the world’s best dad or read a badly written note he’s left on my desk saying that he loves me, adds more to my life than life itself. Of course, there are those moments which are more memorable for their infamy and mischief than their glory, but that’s all part of the package!
What is/are the most challenging thing(s) about being a father?
Trying to be the best example possible can be quite intimidating. My son watches EVERYTHING I do and say and repeats it, figuring if Daddy does or says it, then it must be appropriate. The challenge for me, therefore, is being the very best I can be as a person.
WHAT MAKES A GOOD FATHER?
The Bible speaks of the ideal father as one exemplifying unconditional love, good judgment and values. I think a hybrid of these three things is critical to successful fatherhood.
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NAME: Kevin Pile