Bajan author explores the dating game

Ian Harewood is a Barbadian author who writes under the pseudonym Mule Mind. He is the creator of the book “Some Look For Masters & Some Look For Saviors.”

The book, which was released on August 8th, 2021 and has already received a five-star review on Amazon, is a collection of his dating experiences over the years after multiple failed relationships in which he was the saviour.

Subsequently, he began to realise that some women preferred men who were ‘masters’.

“I went through a couple of failed relationships, and I was always the good guy in the relationships. I was raised and taught that I should always be the good guy in the relationship and still had bad breakups.

“I was trying to figure out what I had done wrong in the relationships, and it reminded me of the saying that good guys finish last.

“Over the years by observing other people and their relationships and watching how good women deal with guys who are bad guys and treat them badly and despite that treatment these women still love those men. I was like here I am a good guy and treat women well – why is it I cannot find someone who would go hard for me?” he said.

Harewood said that in doing his self-introspection he decided that his research should be compiled in a book to educate his male peers who were facing similar situations in their relationship journeys.

“I thought that I should share the information with guys who are like my former self. I have not gotten any negative response from persons. Even my editor who read the book said he could identify a lot of the traits in the book as he identified himself as a saviour back in his previous relationships.

Now that he is a different individual, he considers himself more of a master,” he said.

The first-time author said that the concept of the book was two-fold in that the ‘saviour’ is seen as the hero while the ‘master’ is seen as the anti-hero.

However, during the book persons would realise that the saviour is the one who suffers the most in their relationships.

“The concept of the book is the ‘Master’ and the ‘Savior’.

The Hero and Anti-hero. When you read the book, some people may identify the ‘Master’ as being the bad guy and the ‘Savior’ as being the good guy but many times in the book the saviour is the one that ends up losing because he is the one that is putting in 90 per cent in the relationship and the other person is putting in 10 per cent, and when the relationship is over he is the one that loses the most in the relationship.

Basically, in the book I say that saviour gets beaten to a pulp for his good deeds,” he said.

Harewood said that he wants persons who read his book, especially men, to understand that in the age of women being independent that it is okay for a woman to take care of them.

“In this time women are more independent so they can’t expect that a man is supposed to do all the thinking for her and save her from the brutal crazy world and she can’t save herself. I feel that a woman can save herself. Sometimes, men can allow women to take the lead and provide for both of them,” he said.

Harewood invited persons to read his book by heading over to Amazon and typing in books in the search bar, and then typing Mule Mind – Some Look for Masters & Some Look For Saviors. (Write Right PR Services).